I posted this, ten years ago in 2007. It’s on my mind today, because I see legions of people out there who I don’t think will ever partner successfully. I’m not stating that in a critical way. I’m looking at … Read More…
Tag: psychology
How Can I Tell If I Am Projecting My Shadow?
Hi Elsa, How can a person tell the difference between an actual external conflict and projection/unprocessed shadow work that we’re reacting to? When do we try to solve things externally and when do we look within to what the situation … Read More…
Do People Always Seem To Disappoint You? Why?
mudlikesubstance wrote on Facts Of My Life: “…As for the lesson of assuming that others are like us. That strikes me as a very important lesson here. I make that assumption and it turns around and bites me. I am … Read More…
Venus Square Pluto and Relationship Triangles
I favor interactions that are one on one and tend to shun everything else. Liz Greene states that triangular relationships cannot be avoided. I agree. If you and your partner discuss your ex-lover (or theirs), that’s a triangle. When I … Read More…
Astrology, Nature, Nurture and Free Will
Dorothy asks on “Insanity Trumps Astrology”: “Yeah but……if someone looks at the astrology chart to discover personality traits, is that not the whole nature/nurture argument? Someone with a difficult chart, who had a fairly nurturing environment, vs. someone who did … Read More…
Are You Powerless To Change Your Deeply Rooted Behaviors?
A gal I know discovered the deep root of her pathology, today. As an aside she also uncovered the origin of the behavior of some of the other people in her life. For example she could look back at her first … Read More…
Psychopathy: A User’s Guide
My husband and I both have extensive, personal experience with sociopathy. Consequently we’ve been able to compare notes and analyze this phenomenon in depth. While psychopaths have this one thing in common: they have no remorse, there are marked differences … Read More…
Does Everyone Have A Dark Side?
Hi Elsa, Everyone has a dark side, right? I mean are there people who are just so full-blown sweet and adjusted and owning their stuff and never saying a mean word to anyone and fun and nice and kind and … Read More…
Patterns In Relationship: Vicious Women
Back on the theme of vicious women, I’ve only recently come to understand, if a person is vicious, they’re vicious and no one is excluded. It’s sort of like dealing with someone who thinks everyone they meet is X and Y … Read More…
Adults Playing Children’s (Psychological) Games
I was talking to my husband and Jilly about a gal who’s upset with me. It’s a story I’ve told over and over on this blog. If there is a group of people and someone needs to throw a shadow … Read More…