Author: Elsa

Covert Control In Relationships

Hi Elsa, I’ve recently been looking back at my life so far. I came to realise that one of the many patterns of how I engage, broadly, is that I’m un-sticky, if that makes sense. Now at least in relationships, … Read More…

I’m 50 Years Old & Need A Job

Hi Elsa, I read your blog daily and thought I have nothing to lose emailing you. For context – I’m a 50 year old white woman living in Brooklyn. Bluntly, I need a job. More nuanced, at the start of … Read More…

Garnering Thoughtful Feedback

“…I crept out last night behind your back The little they know might be the piece I lack…” – Elvis Costello I was talking to a client this week; I had a different perspective on her situation.   Honestly, I don’t … Read More…

Cooking (Nurturing), Then & Now

Many know, I worked for Frito Lay when I was younger.  The company was founded by a man named, Herman Lay.  When I moved to the South, I met one of Herman Lay’s nephews who told me a wild tale. This … Read More…