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A woman’s Mars sign will tell you something about the type of man she wants (if she’s attracted to men). But just as a man’s Venus sign doesn’t tell the whole story, neither does a woman’s Mars sign. Mars will describe what qualities turn her on, but these may be very different from what she’s looking for in a partner. You have to look at her 7th House (of committed relationships) to get a fuller picture of the kind of guy she wants in her life.
Mars represents male energy in a man or woman’s chart. By its sign and house position, it shows how initiative and sexuality are expressed. It’s the instinctive hunger that pushes people to go after what they want. A woman will be attracted to a man who embodies her Mars qualities.
Mars in Aries, 7th House Cusp in Pisces
Rachel has Mars in Aries (the sign that it rules). She is not shy about going after what she wants, and she’s attracted to assertive men who do the same. Sexually hesitant guys are a turnoff (she gets impatient with them). But let’s say her 7th House cusp is in Pisces (the sign of dreams, transcendence and saviors). She may be attracted to guys who make the first move (Aries), but they must have a sense of spirituality, compassion or a higher purpose (Pisces). A “man’s man” who has no interest in what lies beyond the daily grind may be fun for a short period of time, but she wouldn’t partner up with him. Likewise, a man who drifts through life, or is easily bruised, would not make her heart beat faster. Rachel wants a man who energetically (Aries) pursues what lies beyond (Pisces) his immediate boundaries; a dreamer or healer with the fire to make his dreams happen. One example might be a doctor who puts himself on the front lines (in countries decimated by war or natural disasters).
Since the 7th House also represents Rachel’s projected qualities (that she may or may not own) she’ll admire her potential partner’s creativity, or faith, or healing abilities. Maybe she’s a frustrated idealist who lives out her unacknowledged dreams through her partner. Or maybe she’s a doctor as well, and is drawn to a partner who shares her mission. She’s attracted to the fire, but that fire has to fuel a higher purpose.
Mars in Cancer, 7th House Cusp in Leo
The house positions and signs of Mars, and the 7th House ruler, add depth to the interpretation of a woman’s potential love interest. If Dao has Mars in Cancer, her will is expressed through nurturing. She’s attracted to men who cuddle, cook and generally match her nurturing actions. For Dao, sex is about comfort as much as physical release. Put Mars in her 6th House of service, and this will emphasize her attraction to a man who helps others, just as she assertively (Mars) takes care of him.
But Dao’s 7th House cusp is in Leo, the sign of ego and appreciation. So while she’s attracted to a guy who’s got the domestic duties covered, she won’t partner with him if he’s too humble or self-effacing. He has to be proud of who he is, and she has to feel pride about who he is. If her Sun (ruler of her 7th House) is in her 5th House of self-expression (in Gemini) she might want a partner who’s a performer, or someone who communicates (Gemini) in a way that grabs everyone’s attention. The invisible man who works behind the scenes is not going to cut it as her partner. She’ll be expressing some of her ego (Sun) through her partner, whether or not she’s totally owned her desire to shine (Leo). Or, maybe she wants a partner who’s a nurturing (Cancer) playmate (5th House). But if he’s totally selfish (Leo) and more interested in having fun (5th House) than providing comfort, she won’t be attracted to him. Security turns her on (Mars in Cancer) and drama or attention-grabbing (7th House Leo) is what she admires.
Aspects to her other natal planets will tell us even more about the man she wants. Let’s say Dao’s Moon (needs) is in her 8th House (shared resources and intimacy) Virgo. Her Moon forms a tense square to her 5th House Sun. Dao’s private, intensified need (8th House Moon) to fix things (Virgo) clashes with the playful partners she’s drawn to. She may end up with men who unsettle her, because they push against her inner perfectionist (Virgo). The power dynamics of money, sex and emotions between Dao and her partner will be the battleground. But she needs that tension in a relationship; she’d be bored with a placid union. Maybe she gets involved with an actor (5th House Sun) whose unreliable paychecks make her worry (Virgo) about joint finances (8th House). Now she has a problem to chew on and keep her busy. Any planets in Dao’s 7th House, or aspecting her Mars, would round out the description of her lover and partner.
As always, analyzing an entire chart will give you the most complete relationship picture. But natal Mars represents a woman’s instinctive drive, and the man she’s attracted to must embody that drive. Just focusing on her Mars (the sexual/instinctive part of the equation) leaves out the qualities she’s looking for in a partner. Sometimes the male energy that attracts her is complementary to her ideal partner, but not always. Blending the qualities of her Mars, and her 7th House, will describe the kind of man who turns her on and whom she wants to commit to.
Related: The Venus-Mars Balancing Act
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