{"id":85310,"date":"2017-05-17T20:56:45","date_gmt":"2017-05-17T20:56:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.moonkissd.com\/?p=8902"},"modified":"2017-05-17T21:02:44","modified_gmt":"2017-05-17T21:02:44","slug":"video-how-to-align-with-true-self-change","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/?p=85310","title":{"rendered":"Video: How to Align with True Self Change"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/1xmhUPhI5XA\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You are ready to make a major change -in your relationship patterns, living situation, choice of work, etc. How do you know whether you&#8217;re making a True Self choice -one that will bring new, exciting growth- or you&#8217;re just replicating an old pattern? Tune into your energy body.<em>\u00a0You can watch the video above\u00a0or read the transcript, below.<\/em><span id=\"more-8902\"><\/span><\/p>\n<p>The precipice of change is daunting<br \/>\nNo matter how progressive or adventurous we fancy ourselves to be<br \/>\nIt\u2019s human nature to resist and fear change at deep levels<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s also human nature to move toward the old familiar even when we know we no longer want it or its not healthy or good for us<\/p>\n<p>We think the new choice- the new relationship, cross country move, home- is supposed to feel like a big YES<br \/>\nLike if I\u2019m supposed to move here, or say yes to a date with this person, I should<br \/>\nknow it<br \/>\nThis person should feel like my soul mate before I even get to know them<br \/>\nOr this place I\u2019m considering moving to, my new home, should feel like my soul mate home<br \/>\nOr any change really, it could be about home schooling your kid<br \/>\nIf it\u2019s right for me I should know it in my bones, you think<\/p>\n<p>When in reality, the nature of NEW is unfamiliar, disconcerting<br \/>\nThat\u2019s its energy<br \/>\nThe very quality of deviating from an old familiar pattern and moving into a new reality, one based on growth and evolution, is a feeling of different-ness, or discomfort<\/p>\n<p>Think of this romantically, because this is an easy analogy to make<br \/>\nA person keeps choosing the same partner over and over in different people; different partner, but they\u2019re the same one -they\u2019re abusive or narcissistic or whatever<br \/>\nThey think: Why does this happen?<br \/>\nHere\u2019s why:<br \/>\nThe thing you get most drawn in by, lit up about is usually the childhood pattern repeating itself<br \/>\nYour psyche says \u201cyep, there it is, this is what I know -let\u2019s do this!\u201d<br \/>\nAnd we keep attracting the abuser or the narcissist<br \/>\nSo when you come across someone \u201cnot my type\u201d and you feel some resistance, like \u201cI don\u2019t know at all about this&#8230;I feel unsure\u201d<br \/>\nSome resistance, not being sure about your choice on a mental level, is actually evidence you\u2019re moving into new territory, and breaking up an old pattern<\/p>\n<p>On a soul or subtle level its usually a different story<\/p>\n<p>I have a story here<br \/>\nI knew my husband well over a year before we went on our first date<br \/>\nWe talked, worked together, even spent some time together<br \/>\nBut I had NO IDEA how I felt about him<br \/>\nHe was so different from anyone I\u2019d ever met before<br \/>\nHe was as foreign to me as India- a place I\u2019d never visited<br \/>\nBefore our first kiss, I had no idea if I was even attracted to him<br \/>\nI felt edgy, a little uncomfortable around him, but I took a risk<br \/>\nThe rest is history- eventually we married, and he\u2019s my soul mate<br \/>\nAll the soul matey feelings of comfort kicked in eventually but they weren\u2019t there initially<\/p>\n<p>The old pattern was looking for that \u201cIt\u201d thing in the other person- that fizz of excitement, the thrill of chemistry -which always landed me back into, you guessed it, the old childhood pattern. I didn\u2019t do that with him.<\/p>\n<p>In the midst of change, the Ego has a tendency to cling to what its known, no matter how adventurous and open to change we think we are<br \/>\nA man is looking to upgrade his job and doesn\u2019t understand why he doesn\u2019t feel a \u201cclick\u201d with an exciting opportunity that he knows will bring him growth<br \/>\nThat\u2019s because he\u2019s unconsciously looking to replicate the same job he already has<br \/>\nHe\u2019ll keep measuring the \u201cradical\u201d choice of his True Self at this point in evolution against different but similar variations of the job he already has, and this will cause the Ego to second guess itself and go \u201chmm, maybe it will be better over there&#8230;\u201d<\/p>\n<p>The Ego looks for the old familiar sock, shoe or flannel shirt<br \/>\nThinking it needs that same feeling of comfort it has, from the new<br \/>\nThat\u2019s the reassurance the Ego wants before it agrees to turn a new corner in growth<br \/>\nBut that feeling will only bring it back into the same old pattern<\/p>\n<p>There is a part in each of us that is beyond mind and Ego and will always steer us toward the right decision for the True Self<br \/>\nThe soul is the part of us that knows what we want and need before our mind does<br \/>\nIf, for instance, you have a decision to make and on a mental level you\u2019re agonizing, tune into your soul<br \/>\nJust for a moment, drop in for a quiet space and ask:<br \/>\nHow does the energy of moving in this direction feel?<br \/>\nImagine being in this place, or with that person<br \/>\nIf it\u2019s a YES it will feel smooth, peaceful<br \/>\nIf it\u2019s a NO it will feel like lead in your belly<br \/>\nIf it\u2019s a YES but and then fear&#8230; your is Ego interrupting<br \/>\nPlay with this as a technique<br \/>\nYou can use this to compare two places or people<br \/>\nFor instance the home you aren\u2019t resonant with, with the new home you\u2019re considering<br \/>\nOr the guy who just asked you out with an ex<br \/>\nI think of this like stacking energy side by side<br \/>\nYou hold one and it feels a certain way in your subtle body<br \/>\nThen you hold the other and it feels very different (or the same)<br \/>\nHopefully it feels different&#8211; that\u2019s the energy of change!<\/p>\n<p>If you want to stop unconsciously replicating childhood patterns -be it the home you don\u2019t ever \u201cfeel at home\u201d with, the work situation that stymies you, the dysfunctional relationship<br \/>\ninstead of constantly looking for affirmation with the \u201c&#8230;you complete me\u201d feeling,<br \/>\nyou need to look for the different, unknown, the edgy, the \u201cI don\u2019t know how I feel about this\u201d<br \/>\nThat\u2019s a good sign<br \/>\nIt\u2019s a sign you\u2019re doing something different<br \/>\nYou\u2019re finally turning a new corner<\/p>\n<p>And if you can understand that embracing discomfort- even training yourself to look for a feeling of differentness in situations that you are ready to change<br \/>\nIf you can understand that discomfort, unfamiliarity, \u201cI am not sure about this&#8230;\u201d is the circuit breaker that finally switches off old unhealthy patterns, you are ready to grow<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP\/\/\/ywAAAAAAQABAAACAUwAOw==\" fifu-lazy=\"1\" fifu-data-sizes=\"auto\" fifu-data-srcset=\"https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1&w=75&resize=75&ssl=1 75w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1&w=100&resize=100&ssl=1 100w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1&w=150&resize=150&ssl=1 150w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1&w=240&resize=240&ssl=1 240w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1&w=320&resize=320&ssl=1 320w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1&w=500&resize=500&ssl=1 500w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1&w=640&resize=640&ssl=1 640w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1&w=800&resize=800&ssl=1 800w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1&w=1024&resize=1024&ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1&w=1280&resize=1280&ssl=1 1280w, https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1&w=1600&resize=1600&ssl=1 1600w\" fifu-data-src=\"https:\/\/i1.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"125\" height=\"80\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The post <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"http:\/\/www.moonkissd.com\/2017\/05\/17\/video-align-true-self-change\/\">Video: How to Align with True Self Change<\/a> appeared first on <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"http:\/\/www.moonkissd.com\/\">Moonkissd by Jessica<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; You are ready to make a major change -in your relationship patterns, living situation, choice of work, etc. How do you know whether you&rsquo;re making a True Self choice -one that will bring new, exciting growth- or you&rsquo;re just replicating an old pattern? Tune into your energy body.&nbsp;You can watch the video above&nbsp;or read [&hellip;]<\/p>\n<p>The post <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"http:\/\/www.moonkissd.com\/2017\/05\/17\/video-align-true-self-change\/\">Video: How to Align with True Self Change<\/a> appeared first on <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"http:\/\/www.moonkissd.com\/\">Moonkissd by Jessica<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"more-link-p\"><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/?p=85310\">Read more &rarr;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":87,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_uf_show_specific_survey":0,"_uf_disable_surveys":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"fifu_image_url":"","fifu_image_alt":"","_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[],"tags":[10452],"class_list":["post-85310","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","tag-new-video"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pekXVE-mbY","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85310","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/87"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=85310"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85310\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":85311,"href":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85310\/revisions\/85311"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=85310"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=85310"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=85310"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}