{"id":84806,"date":"2017-04-12T09:00:52","date_gmt":"2017-04-12T09:00:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/sasstrology.com\/?p=75666"},"modified":"2017-04-12T09:00:52","modified_gmt":"2017-04-12T09:00:52","slug":"i-love-you-now-go-away-moon-and-uranus-in-synastry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/?p=84806","title":{"rendered":"I Love You, Now Go Away: Moon and Uranus in Synastry"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Credit: Milatas<\/a> via iStockphoto<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

It was just one of those things
\nJust one of those crazy flings
\nOne of those bells that now and then rings
\nJust one of those things<\/em><\/div>\n

 
\nWhen discussing relationship astrology, one could argue that the inter-connections between two people\u2019s Moons is the one that dominates the landscape. After all, one\u2019s natal lunar placement describes one\u2019s perceived needs for comfort and security, as well as one\u2019s emotional responses. Any synastry aspect involving the Moon tells a story of how easily (or not) two people can feel at home with each other.<\/b> Let us not underestimate the importance of lunar connections between two people in a romantic relationship.<\/p>\n

Having said that, here comes the caveat: Even if Mick Jagger wants to paint it black, one cannot paint an entire landscape with just one color. Similarly, one synastry aspect alone cannot describe the complexities of a relationship.<\/b> With that in mind, this discussion relating to Moon and Uranus inter-aspects offers but one piece of a relationship\u2019s puzzle. Yes, the Moon looms large. At the same time, perspective is useful. Uranus\u2014aka The Awakener\u2014certainly offers perspective. And, when it\u2019s aspecting another person\u2019s Moon, perspective becomes paramount if the relationship is to thrive.<\/p>\n

And, while I\u2019m nattering on about perspective, let\u2019s take an overview first, shall we? Uranus is the modern-day ruler of Aquarius. As in, this is the dawning of the<\/em>\u2026etcetera. Harmony and understanding, Sympathy and trust abounding. No more falsehoods or derisions. Golden living dreams of visions, Mystic crystal revelation, and the mind’s true liberation, Aquarius!<\/em> These lyrics from the iconic musical \u201cHair\u201d are some of the best descriptors of the Aquarian vibe\u2014or, at least, one facet of the Aquarian vibe. Because the flip-side of the Aquarian-Uranian coin is\u2014far from brotherhood and collective unity\u2014space, please. Plenty of it<\/em>. Indeed, the thrust for liberation and freedom is so pronounced in the land of Aquarius and its ambassador Uranus that\u2014if that need isn\u2019t met organically\u2014it will be forced<\/b> as if arbitrarily, perhaps to the point of alienating others. So much for sympathy and trust abounding. And yet within this mixture of bonding and breaking the bond lies a clue about the nature of any relationship with a strong Uranian flavor. <\/p>\n

And what might I be referring to when I speak of a relationship with a strong Uranian flavor? One with a synastry aspect between the Moon and Uranus would constitute a rather Uranian relationship. As in I love you. Now please go away for a while so I can miss you<\/em>. There is nothing inherently weird (now there\u2019s a Uranus word) with either partner needing some Virginia Woolf room of one\u2019s own. Unfortunately, it doesn\u2019t always occur that both people are on the same page about the whens and for how longs of that perceived need for space. That\u2019s when suffering occurs. If you\u2019re in deep with someone who\u2019s hooked into your Moon by way of Uranus (cue the raised eyebrows and giggles) you need a good sense of perspective, and a giant heap of I\u2019m cool to take care of myself<\/em>. Otherwise known as emotional maturity.<\/p>\n

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Yet, in our lunar spaces, we often go to the mindset of the inner child\u2014the one who craves cradling and nurturing. Take care of me; don\u2019t ever leave me.<\/em> Such words are anathema to Uranus, as he runs swiftly out the door. Now that\u2019s<\/em> mature. But what can you expect from a planetary energy that expresses itself by overthrowing the status quo? Once your relationship gets all cozy and settled in, it becomes status quo<\/b>, yes? Enter Uranus; exit one partner.<\/b><\/p>\n

This can all work if you are given to desired stints of isolation. Do you have the Moon or Mercury, Venus or Mars in Aquarius, perchance? If so, you already know that some give and take of freedom is essential to your well-being. And that can go a long way towards mitigating the sometimes glaring effects of a Moon-Uranus square or opposition between you.<\/p>\n

Of course, some aspects feel easier to process than others. But\u2014and this is key\u2014the ease or dynamism of an aspect does not change the ultimately off-beat nature of a relationship marked by a Moon-Uranus aspect.<\/b> It does not change the fact that\u2014regardless of how well the demand for space is tolerated\u2014the nature of the relationship is one that has periods of closeness and periods apart. Period. Now decide how you want to feel about that, and how you wish to deal with it.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s say that my Moon in Libra makes a pleasing little sextile to your Uranus in Leo. In keeping with the nature of a sextile\u2014which is really about opportunity\u2014at the moment that inter-aspect gets triggered (perhaps by a transit) we recognize a kinship. We zap, we crackle, we discover things about ourselves and about each other. It feels good. Really good. It\u2019s exciting as all hell. We ride that wave until another transit removes one of us from the scene\u2014likely you, the Uranian one. Off you go. I will miss you. You likely won\u2019t think of me much while we\u2019re apart. Not because you\u2019re a cold heartless jerk, but because you\u2019ve got other stuff going on right now. And me? Depending on other factors in my natal chart, I might be okay with that. Because I know that I will see you again sometime. And when I do it will be great. Exciting as all hell. Until we part ways again. And so on. The synastry sextile between Moon and Uranus offers chance after chance to re-connect, and\u2014when the reunion occurs\u2014it\u2019s like being in a bubble for two.<\/b> Will it drive you mad at times? Yup. But maybe you require a certain amount of madness in order to feel fully alive. Think on that.<\/p>\n

Suppose there\u2019s a trine between your Moon in Gemini and my Uranus in Libra. Boom. Instant attraction. Like, where have you been hiding all of my life? Maybe we tap into each other\u2019s brand of kink. Meanwhile, your Moon operates through air\u2019s detached element, so you can be more dispassionate than most about your emotions. Thank goodness, because I\u2019ve got something that calls me away for awhile. But we have this telepathic bond that means we feel connected to each other even when geography separates us. We have magic. I\u2019ll be coming back for more of that. In the meantime, you don\u2019t begrudge hanging out with friends or siblings in my absence. A Moon-Uranus synastry trine is akin to instant and inexhaustible chemistry.<\/b><\/p>\n

It was just one of those nights
\nJust one of those fabulous flights
\nA trip to the moon on gossamer wings
\nJust one of those things<\/em><\/div>\n

 
\nAnd what if my Moon in Virgo conjoins your Uranus (and possibly Pluto as well, if you\u2019re a child of the mid-sixties)? Well, that feels decidedly different than the sextile or trine. I feel you, alright. But I\u2019m not sure if I\u2019m supposed to like it. It\u2019s kind of like trying to climb a barbed wire fence. Impractical at best. Especially since you surprise me with each notice that you\u2019re taking a weekend away with your historic re-enactment society. See how it goes? You rattle my feelings, and my entreaties for more connection hobble your drive for freedom. One issue with a Moon-Uranus synastry conjunction is the possibility that\u2014after the initial impulse or reason for our connection has passed\u2014we will experience only intermittent reunions.<\/b> How do either of us cope? It depends on what the rest of our charts look like. Maybe my Moon is in the 12th House and I need some solitude on a regular basis, anyway. Maybe your Uranus is in the 7th House and, for all intents and purposes, regular time apart is what a committed partnership is \u2018supposed\u2019 to look like.<\/p>\n

How about a square between your Moon in Pisces and my Uranus in Sagittarius? It\u2019s a clunker, let\u2019s be real\u2026even if we both have a propensity for rose-colored glasses\u2014which we likely do. After all, Jupiter disposits your Moon and my Uranus. There\u2019s an affinity there. We\u2019re both reaching for something greater than ourselves. But it\u2019s like trying to crash the gates of heaven. And one or both of us has a knack for lousy timing. That\u2019s a square for you. It feels like a yes… but.<\/b> \u201cYou can have the whole enchilada, honey. But I\u2019m going to feed it to you one morsel at a time, with great intervals between each bite.\u201d Hopefully it won\u2019t get cold before you get to the last piece. <\/p>\n

I advocate using the synastry square as an avenue for growth and exploration. When the Moon is involved, though, it can feel cranky. If you\u2019ve got this aspect going on with someone, then tend to your own garden. Self-care and self-autonomy does not an orphan make. The word adulting<\/em> has entered the English lexicon, and\u2014if you\u2019re part of a Moon square Uranus combo\u2014it needs to become your action word. Lunar-Uranus squares may be good for you\u2014kind of like lentils. Friction equals growth. Still, if you can\u2019t stand the taste, no need to blame the lentils or guilt-trip the lentils; just leave the lentils and look for a root vegetable. <\/p>\n

If we’d thought of it ’bout the end of it
\nWhen we started painting the town
\nWe’d have been aware that our love affair
\nWas too hot not to cool down<\/em><\/div>\n

 
\nIf your Uranus in Scorpio opposes my Moon in Taurus, we\u2019ve got some issues. Sunny side first: my Moon is exalted in Taurus. I\u2019m the queen of self-care. Underside coming: I know how to take care of you, too\u2014better than you do, in fact. Which is why you\u2019re going to listen to me when I say\u2026hey, where are you going?? An opposition is the very antithesis of coming together. Something comes to a head, and then the energy dissipates. In relationships it can feel like there\u2019s scant sense of connection. The two people involved have difficulty \u201creading\u201d or \u201cgetting\u201d each other. In some cases it can actually feel as though one of you may as well not even be there. Finding the middle road with each other is paramount to navigating an opposition. This is the stillpoint of enlightenment, and also the medicine.<\/b><\/p>\n

Couples all around the world are getting it on with Moon-Uranus synastry oppositions. Maybe the opposition puts the fizz in the jizz. (Over the line? We are talking about Uranus, after all.) Maybe your Suns are sextile. Or your Mercury and Venus trine. Maybe you both like peaches. Yes, all of this plays a role in how you \u2018do\u2019 your relationship. Yet a synastry opposition involving the Moon feels especially personal, and is pretty tough to brush under the carpet. If that lunar opposition is to Uranus\u2014whose very influence is about the energy of separation\u2014one can\u2019t help but wonder how long until the Uranian escape clause is invoked.<\/p>\n

So goodbye, dear, and Amen
\nHere’s hoping we’ll meet now and then
\nIt was great fun
\nBut it was just one of those things<\/em><\/div>\n

 
\nHere\u2019s the dish on Moon-Uranus synastry aspects: they spell a degree of separation, regardless of which aspect we\u2019re talking about. Because Uranus, unlike Saturn (the classical ruler of Aquarius), is not a consolidator but a separator. Humans get awfully attached to people and stuff and situations. And sometimes that prevents us from stepping outside of our comfort zones and adulting ourselves a bit more. The nature of the aspect between the Moon and Uranus effectively describes how pleasing (or not) is the phase of separation between you and your lover.<\/b><\/p>\n

There will be bouts of bye bye\u2019s between you. One of you is contracted to work away from home a few times a year. One of you is in a profession that chronically demands a great deal of your time. Someone is responsible for the long-term care of an ill family member, which pulls them away from the comfort of coupling. This is the stuff of life. A relationship marked by Moon-Uranus synastry aspects is one that weathers (or not) these types of things to one degree or another. Chances are, you met under a Uranus transit. A Moon-Uranus connection will brand the very nature of your relationship. You will experience periods of absence from each other.<\/b> You will thrive at times and go kind of mad at other times. You sure as heck won\u2019t be bored.<\/p>\n

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