{"id":83777,"date":"2017-02-20T00:12:23","date_gmt":"2017-02-20T00:12:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.moonkissd.com\/?p=8752"},"modified":"2017-02-20T22:12:42","modified_gmt":"2017-02-20T22:12:42","slug":"working-with-mars-anger","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/astrologyblogger.com\/?p=83777","title":{"rendered":"Working With Mars & Anger"},"content":{"rendered":"

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This week, warrior planet, Mars in Aries, squares Pluto in Capricorn (2\/22<\/strong>),<\/strong>\u00a0then\u00a0conjoins Uranus (2\/26<\/strong>). As the red planet heats up our world, it’s time to\u00a0become more conscious about\u00a0our personal Mars.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

I read this post<\/a> by astrologer Michael Lutin about the upcoming Mars-Pluto-Uranus aspects:… “Even the calmest, most patient, spiritually developed, all-chakras-aligned, organic vegetarians can be heard muttering under their breath, I’ve had enough of this shit.”<\/p>\n

It takes a lot to make me chuckle, but I\u00a0laughed out loud. There’s a lot to be angry about lately, and spiritual folk are not exempt from this.<\/p>\n

It struck me that we do often think anger is un-spiritual. Anger is not un-spiritual. There is absolutely nothing wrong with saying \u201cfuck this shit\u201d, as evidenced by the popularity of the humorous but ultimately spiritual book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck<\/em>. I haven’t read the book, but one of my best ways for clearing energy when it\u2019s stuck is jumping up from meditation and yelling \u201cfuck this shit!!!\u201d. I call this my \u201cfuck it!\u201d energy clearing technique (TM me, 2017).<\/p>\n

Having anger is totally spiritual. Having anger is not the problem. It\u2019s what we do next, or don\u2019t, that matters.<\/p>\n

Yes, what happens next…that’s often a problem.\u00a0Most of us are\u00a0not taught how to work with our emotions\u00a0-especially not\u00a0hot ones, like anger. Mars is a planet of extremes. We may flip out, or we may even deny our experience completely. \u00a0How can we be more conscious with Mars, so we don\u2019t go off half-cocked, hurting our selves or others?<\/p>\n

To work with Mars, the inner warrior in you, it helps to understand what anger is. What is anger? Energetically, when you look underneath the hood of anger you will always <\/em>find fear. Fear that I\u2019m not being valued, respected, important, cherished, and ultimately fear that I don\u2019t exist at all. The existential cry of anger is: \u201cI am no one. I don\u2019t matter to you or anyone.\u201d Know this and it\u2019s easy to see how that perception incurs a great terror capable of great violence and harm.<\/p>\n

So one of the great secrets of working with anger is to go underneath it. Admit\u00a0that you are terrified that you really don\u2019t exist, and you don\u2019t matter at all. But that\u2019s hard to do because anger disguises that terror (because its so afraid) by justifying a drama. Like a puffer fish, anger thinks, if I take up more space and oxygen and get really in your face, if I generate this feeling of strength and power, I won\u2019t have to feel my deep vulnerability and fear. Hence, the puffer fish approach.\"\"<\/p>\n

Attempting to protect our selves with big energy may work in the wild animal kingdom, preventing other animals from eating us, but in our human reality there are only a few occasions that actually call for that level of ferocity. Mostly, fear and intimidation causes harm, pain and suffering. After all, anger never inoculates us against our true fear of vulnerability, it just prolongs the\u00a0fear we are protecting our self from honestly seeing, saving it for a later date. It distorts something so basic and natural\u00a0to human life, our vulnerability, into something so big and scary that it takes on a life of its own.<\/p>\n

Vulnerability is the sweet spot of anger. Vulnerability is your true strength… because it\u2019s the truth, and the truth always has strength and freedom in it. The truth is that we are vulnerable, and none of us are protected from the pain of abandonment, rejection and betrayal. These are realities the Ego has experienced many times and denying that is believing a lie. The honest solution is feeling our fear and pain.<\/p>\n

Truly, with Mars, \u201cthere is nothing to fear but fear itself\u201d.<\/p>\n

Mars actually has a very simple job- to say \u201couch\u201d when someone steps on our toe, to stand up for our self when we need to, to truthfully and appropriately assert our self, to generate energy for emergencies, and be the courageous hero and leader when that\u2019s called for. Simple right? Not so. Conditioning and personality limitations distort Mars\u2019 function (we can see that via Mars and aspects in the birth chart), making integrating our personal Mars more difficult, and necessary. I have quite a few Mars aspects in my chart, so I\u2019ve worked at this for a long while. Here are my\u00a0strategies, a method for your mad-ness, if you will.<\/p>\n

How to work with anger:<\/p>\n

1. Admit you’re angry<\/strong>, and know its totally okay to have it<\/strong> (don\u2019t reject or deny it- it will become more explosive and painful!). Own that you\u2019re feeling hurt, angry, resistant, pissed… and, if you can go there, maybe even a little afraid?<\/p>\n

2. Make a safe space to feel your\u00a0feelings fully, alone.<\/strong> You may scream in your parked car, throw an axe against a piece of wood, hammer nails, scream into pillows, punch pillows, write letters you never send, yell curse words at a personified empty chair. All of these work to discharge anger. You don\u2019t want to let it build up because this literally harms your body and health, so these practices, as silly as they may sound, are actually forms of deep self-care that protect you from harm- which is the function of Mars. Note: When you allow yourself to fully express it, anger often shifts into sadness and fear. Don\u2019t be afraid of that fear when it happens! It\u2019s a sign you\u2019re making progress.<\/p>\n

3. Have a hard time feeling your anger?\u00a0Throw gas on the fire.<\/strong>\u00a0Peace-loving souls have a hard time being mean, nasty or angry. This build-up of anger can lead to toxic resentment that erodes confidence, happiness, promotes victim-hood mentality and can even cause physical pain.\u00a0If you find it difficult to experience anger but you can feel it there like an ugly, dark thing silently seething in the corner, feed your anger, bait it with negativity, curse words, encourage your self to feel justified in being a \u201cdiva,\u201d or whatever. For some people, it\u00a0is totally appropriate to pour gas on a fire — to fully feel what we’ve been avoiding feeling because we judge anger as too ugly, dark, scary, wrong.\u00a0For others,\u00a0it is not (see no. 4).<\/p>\n

4. If you are reactive, if you regularly say or do things in a fit of anger that you regret later, you need to ask this.<\/strong>\u00a0What am I about? What are my values? Who am I? Do I\u00a0even like the person I’ve become? Which leads to…<\/p>\n

5. What are you fighting for, anyhow?<\/strong> Remember that 80\u2019s REO Speedwagon song that goes \u201cI can\u2019t fight this feeling anymore. I\u2019ve forgotten what I\u2019ve started fighting for\u201d? During any battle or fight, especially a prolonged or repetitive one, it\u2019s very easy to forget what you started fighting for in the first place. Any battle or war, even if once\u00a0initiated from a strong sense of principle and injustice, easily devolves into blind brutality. It’s\u00a0important to be honest about how easy it is for your inner warrior to get pulled into a rage so blind that\u00a0you no longer recognize your self, and thus do real, lasting damage.<\/p>\n

6. Go underneath the anger.<\/strong>\u00a0When you’ve exhausted your self, sit in a space of vulnerability and tenderness for your self (note: this is impossible to do if you’re still angry, so do #2).\u00a0From that space, ask your self what your real and true need is in this situation. Then deeply listen. You may be surprised when what you truly need isn\u2019t what you originally thought. Self-honesty is\u00a0crucial\u00a0at this stage.\u00a0<\/em>Anger may be\u00a0trying to get us in touch with something we want, but don\u2019t think we can have. Anger can do a\u00a0smoke and mirrors dance, distracting us from something we don’t want to face. Sometimes, if you’ve been shamed\u00a0for expressing anger, it simply needs to be felt,\u00a0accepted, not judged.<\/p>\n

7. On the other side of anger: your inner badass! <\/strong>Society tells us there is strength in violence and anger, and vulnerability is weakness. Cue: every action hero movie you’ve ever watched. From a spiritual perspective this is 100%\u00a0opposite of true. Angry behavior\u00a0does not make you strong; being willing to feel it fully, without blame\u00a0or judgment, does. <\/em>When you allow all your hot feelings to exist without judgment or shaming, you discover true inner strength is the flexibility to compassionately allow\u00a0whatever comes up. A ninja warrior is adaptable, permeable to others, and a master of self-honesty.<\/p>\n

Because anger masks fear, it\u00a0is much harder to work with anger than fear, in my experience, so give your self time and space to honor what needs to come up. If you\u2019re in a process of releasing anger, it can\u00a0take hours, days, even weeks. If that sounds like way too long, here’s a secret:“<\/em>I am angry” is a complete sentence. The mind wants to say “I am angry because…” but that doesn’t transform anger. Allow your self to experience the pure energy of anger, you’ll return\u00a0to peace more quickly<\/p>\n

This is honorable and necessary inner work. Your balls, your power, your lady strength, your true badassery\u00a0-in other words, your most courageous Mars- relies on you\u00a0allowing your self to fully\u00a0feel your hurt, betrayal, fear, nastiness and pain in a safe way. Everyone wants to embody the best of Mars,\u00a0to be the valiant warrior hero they\u2019re capable of being, and to do that, we’ve got to\u00a0be willing to\u00a0work with our anger.<\/p>\n

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This week, warrior planet, Mars in Aries, squares Pluto in Capricorn (2\/22), then conjoins Uranus (2\/26). As the red planet heats up our world, it’s time to become more conscious about our personal Mars. I read this post by astrologer Michael Lutin about the upcoming Mars-Pluto-Uranus aspects:… “Even the calmest, most patient, spiritually developed, all-chakras-aligned, organic vegetarians can be […]<\/p>\n

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