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Several times over the past few weeks, friends and clients, while talking about their experiences with both making judgments on others, or being unfairly judged, have asked me a leading question, \u201cI bet you have been judged a lot, being in the public eye?\u201d Before my first book was published, I had a channeled reading with one of my teachers who said: Expectations come with this new book and role. Many new people will love and elevate you, and there will be people whom you will disappoint.<\/em> He was right.<\/span><\/p>\n Show me a Libra Rising who wants to disappoint others and I\u2019ll show you an empty room. Yet, it’s true;\u00a0many have\u00a0connected with me,\u00a0but\u00a0I\u2019ve let others down, too. About my books,\u00a0I\u2019ve been told that Karmic Dates<\/em>, is nothing original, no better than what\u2019s found on the web; that A Love Alchemist\u2019s Notebook<\/em> is too \u201cChicken Soup For The Soul\u201d (is this a bad thing?). I\u2019ve been told that Venus Signs<\/em>, because it was written from and for a woman\u2019s perspective, \u201coffers little more than entertainment value\u201d.<\/p>\n If you are committed to being vulnerable and real, there is no armor strong enough to protect you from the sting of judgment. People judge. Some more than others, but people\u00a0judge. You can\u2019t please everyone. You can only please your self.<\/strong> Because art wouldn\u2019t be created if we spent our time worrying about what others will think or say. Because I don\u2019t want to be the kind of writer or person who is so afraid of owning a perspective that her self-expression is robotic, and instead of producing a work of art, poetry, produces an encyclopedia of knowledge that, while exhaustive in its ability to name all the permutations and possibilities to account for everyone’s perspective who reads it, often reads more like a textbook and fails to touch the human heart. That kind of writing doesn\u2019t turn me on. That kind of writing is not what comes out.\u00a0It isn\u2019t me.<\/em><\/p>\n I have been judged for what I have said, for what I have not said and, like many, I\u2019ve been unjustly judged. Honestly, when my\u00a0friend\u00a0asked about being judged, my mind went to an incident I experienced last weekend, at a hotel. A\u00a0mix of about twenty adults and teenaged kids, who were having a dance party late at night in the hotel lobby, decided to harass me for no apparent reason, as I played with my iPhone from the balcony above. The ringleaders were adults, which surprised me (I later learned, from the clerk, they thought I had complained about them being too noisy; I hadn\u2019t, though they were). I was shocked at the example the adults were teaching kids; essentially, to bully strangers. I actually wondered if I was secretly being filmed on a reality show, because I am so rarely exposed to nasty people anymore that I could only associate them with t.v.<\/p>\n This eclipse falls on my Libra-Pluto, Aries-Mars,\u00a0Cancer-Sun, Capricorn-North-Node cardinal cross,<\/strong>\u00a0so I got to revisit the times I\u2019ve bullied, picked on, harassed, violated. I got to revisit all the times I\u2019d been called \u201cgringa\u201d, \u201cwhite skinny bitch\u201d and \u201cEthiopian\u201d in junior high; and the time I was attacked in an empty stairwell. I got to revisit times I’ve felt grossly, unjustly misunderstood- to realize how futile it is to attempt to be understood. Heck, I\u00a0<\/em>don\u2019t entirely understand me, why I have\u00a0this particular lesson, only that I am\u00a0learning, one experience at a time, the more I: refuse to get pulled down by negative behavior,\u00a0continue to stand in my core value of kindness\u00a0while\u00a0deciding to not be a victim and\u00a0stand up for myself…\u00a0the more I honor my self. Frankly, it feels good to be at this stage of maturity, where I can so clearly see how\u00a0much I’ve grown<\/p>\n And that’s why I give gratitude\u00a0to this eclipse. Eclipses bring up old patterns, to show us how far we\u2019ve come and just how ready we are to grow, to move ten steps ahead and close out the pattern, once and for all.<\/strong>\u00a0As I\u2019ve observed my clients face similar fast and furious eclipse growth lessons, they\u2019ve been so literal it\u2019s uncanny. \u00a0One client\u2019s latest love interest, instead of leading with his strengths (the typical way people express interest in having a relationship with us), basically handed her a resume of all the reasons, and warnings, about why she should not date him. Still, for her, breaking old patterns isn’t easy. It isn’t easy for any of us. But right now we can and should reach,\u00a0because the stronger the\u00a0evidence we are being given, the more ready we are to end this pattern.\u00a0As\u00a0Jimmy Cliff once sang, the harder they come, the harder they fall.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n At this Libra Full Moon Lunar Eclipse, our evolution is tied into the lives of others.<\/strong> Who are your teachers right now?<\/strong> What are they showing you about your self? What lesson are you finally ready to graduate?<\/strong> Just because something is happening, again, and looks\u00a0eerily similar to the past, doesn\u2019t mean that it is a repeat performance, that\u00a0we’re going down\u00a0the cosmic toilet bowl, doomed to repeat flush forever. We have a choice: we can\u00a0get pulled back into the undertow, or we can\u00a0stand at the helm of our little boat we call our life and make a new choice. From a\u00a0spiritual\u00a0perspective, everyone is here to help you grow. Maybe that means experiencing judgment so you can realise only you have the power to give your self away. Maybe others are showing you bad behavior so you can see how good you\u2019ve gotten at honoring you. Or maybe it’s about severing an unhealthy relationship and committing to healthy partnering.\u00a0Maybe you are learning the Libran values of civility, kindness, empathy,\u00a0because your behavior is being\u00a0perceived by others as rude, unkind, tactless or self-absorbed. Whatever “it” is, your current growth\u00a0path, the Cosmos\u00a0have\u00a0been giving you oodles of obvious clues, lately.<\/p>\n As we move into an Aries Sun month, let’s each\u00a0take confidence in our birthright to unapologetically shine from our center and trust what comes out as true for us. It takes courage to take a stand, whether voicing your political beliefs, addressing injustice, or writing a book from a unique perspective. It takes courage to put your voice\u00a0and\u00a0choices out there for the world to see, to stand in\u00a0your truth, to make yourself<\/strong> vulnerable to judgment. <\/strong>It\u00a0takes courage to turn corners on an old pattern. You can do this. Just\u00a0stand in your center, friends, make choices from your deepest, truest values. Because at day\u2019s end, when you rest your head on your pillow, what other people did or said doesn\u2019t matter. What matters most is how you feel about you.<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/moonkissd.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/new%20jessica%20xo%20sig.JPG?resize=125%2C80\")
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