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The following is a cookbook description of Chiron contacts with the personal planets in relationship. It is an edited excerpt from my upcoming book on Chiron in synastry,\u00a0Beyond the Wound: <\/strong><\/em>\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Chiron always weaves a spell in the beginning. \u00a0Unlike the spell of Neptune, which is the promise of forever love and effortless spiritual partnership, the Chiron spell is more about the promise of healing. \u00a0“This is what you’ve always needed,” it whispers in our ear. \u00a0Need being the operative word. \u00a0“I don’t care if it hurts,” you say, “something is happening here. \u00a0I feel myself becoming myself.” \u00a0Well, maybe. \u00a0At first. \u00a0Before the real stuff kicks in.<\/p>\n I’ve seen relationships with a lot of Chiron last for decades. \u00a0It hurts, but we don’t let go because of the promise of wholeness and healing. \u00a0We dig in. \u00a0We become convinced that this is a one and only thing–no one else can make me feel this way. \u00a0So we hang on for dear life. \u00a0This is also true of those with Chiron on angles, either conjunct the Descendant in the natal chart or between charts. \u00a0There is a (potentially exhausting) pull about the whole thing. \u00a0Unlike Pluto, which pries our fingers of whatever we are trying to hold on to that doesn’t suit our progress, the Chiron clinging is often about denial–denial of who we really are, and the wise person we can be. \u00a0This can be a glue more sticky than Saturn. We are, all of us whether we consciously know it or not, hungry for knowledge and meaning.<\/p>\n There’s the rub with Chiron–the potential for wisdom. \u00a0I think Chiron is very cagey about this, he doesn’t show his cards. \u00a0We may never realize that we are obsessed with this particular ‘other’ because we want to learn some very deep lessons. \u00a0We want to learn from this relationship, to become the wise healer ourselves.<\/p>\n Eventually, we do walk away from Chiron. \u00a0We do learn. \u00a0Sometimes we say, “Never again.” \u00a0But most of the time we walk away with our heads held high, filled with a renewed sense of wisdom about the ways of the world. \u00a0We learn that we sacrificed the old self\/life for the new, and like Chiron, have been elevated because of it.<\/p>\n Chiron\/Sun: \u00a0The Chiron person can feel as if he or she is touching the king’s robe in order to be healed, and may feel at the mercy of the solar light, even though it is warm and inviting at first. \u00a0Chiron will usually bask in the solar presence, possibly becoming dependent upon it at the expense of its own individual development. \u00a0The Sun may feel this dependence and resent it. \u00a0It also may feel that Chiron is more powerful than it purports to be and may be there to usurp the Sun’s throne. \u00a0Trust can be an issue. \u00a0There can be a great deal of healing for\u00a0both parties as long as they individuate on\u00a0their own path. \u00a0Ego is often at stake, with the Sun feeling cramped and restricted by Chiron’s insistence on healing and probing the depths of the relationship. \u00a0The Sun wants to breathe and play and eventually, it will–usually without Chiron. \u00a0The only answer is to acknowledge one another’s power, to let the Sun shine and allow Chiron to use its hard won wisdom.<\/p>\n Chiron\/Moon: \u00a0With Chiron\/Moon there is almost always the deep bond of sexual healing. \u00a0Chiron, when motivated, is a highly sexual thing, the half-man, half-beast of the centaur personified. \u00a0Unlike Chiron\/Mars, which is rather one-pointed (no pun intended) Chiron\/Moon is a more all-encompassing contact, with body, mind and spirit all united in the sexuality of the couple. \u00a0This weaves an intense, difficult to shake spell of its own. \u00a0Chiron is broken and hungry–the Moon nurtures, the Moon fulfills, the Moon spreads salve on whatever and wherever Chiron aches. \u00a0The ‘other’ becomes ‘the answer.’ \u00a0The Moon itself is hungry. \u00a0It becomes addicted to the psycho-spiritual give and take, the breathing out and breathing in on an emotional and spiritual level. \u00a0How painful, then, when the rose is discovered to have thorns. \u00a0The problem begins outside of the bedroom, especially when the intimacy of the couple is violated in some way. \u00a0There may be a series of betrayals, with each running roughshod over the other’s acute sensibility. \u00a0One, or\u00a0both, feel violated, as if the trust of the bond has been betrayed. \u00a0Intimate and cozy may become suffocating, most likely because vulnerability is a difficult state to maintain. \u00a0We feel open and exposed; Chiron feels its wound is on display, the Moon that it is robbed of its spiritual sustenance and sent off to slaughter. \u00a0As always with Chiron contacts, there is a secret fear and resentment of Chiron’s power, and a need to escape. \u00a0The best way to maintain this kind of relationship is to be brave and face the mutual intimacy and exposure. \u00a0The relationship will grow stronger because of it.<\/p>\n Chiron\/Mercury: \u00a0This is one of the less problematic of the Chiron pairings, unless Mercury is extremely prominent in the natal chart or there is an educational gap or insecurity between the two. \u00a0Chiron works better with a partnership of equals. \u00a0Because Mercury and Jupiter are about learning and teaching, and Chiron is a natural teacher, the course can run smooth. \u00a0Both Chiron and Mercury can take turns being the student and the teacher. However, if this is one of those teacher\/student bondings, where one partner is (or expects to be) the wise one and the other the eager student, it can go very wrong. \u00a0Oddly, I’ve often seen this contact in couples who have a large age gap. \u00a0The elder partner expects to play the wise one, and is then dismayed when the younger partner turns out to have more learning and life experience. \u00a0With this contact, there can be a lot of pain surrounding not only education, but life skills. \u00a0One partner can resent the other’s creativity, for example, or facility with concepts. \u00a0Chiron can cause the Mercury person to feel inadequate intellectually, or unable to communicate clearly and effectively. \u00a0Mercury may dance circles around Chiron, making Chiron feel tired in comparison. \u00a0It depends on the placement of Chiron in sign and house.<\/p>\n Chiron\/Venus: \u00a0One of the more poetic contacts in synastry. \u00a0When there is a Venus\/Chiron contact in a natal chart, the person usually has a great love for life in all its glory and its sadness, for the beauty as well as the broken. \u00a0In fact, it may prefer the broken, feeling there is honesty and poetry in life’s limitations. \u00a0In Chiron\/Venus synastry, both Chiron and Venus may be more attracted to the faults of the other than the strengths. \u00a0“I love you\u00a0because\u00a0<\/em>you’re broken.” \u00a0Instantly, we can see how this can get complicated. \u00a0“If you love me for my brokenness, how am I supposed to heal? \u00a0If I heal, I lose you.” \u00a0Sometimes, both parties would rather stay broken than risk loss and independence. As always with Venus, issues of self-esteem run large. \u00a0Venus may feel criticized for the way it expresses its love. \u00a0Chiron may love Venus intensely, but Venus may not feel it, because Chiron is not speaking Venus’s ‘love language.’ \u00a0Chiron may feel that Venus is glorious, but when it begins to feel healed via the relationship, fear may set in. \u00a0Chiron may hold itself back, much the way Chiron stabs himself with his own poisoned arrow (according to one version of the story). \u00a0No matter the planet it touches, Chiron will often hold itself back, rather than cross the threshold into self-healing and the responsibility that carries.<\/p>\n Chiron\/Mars: \u00a0The key aspect of sexual healing. \u00a0Whether the contact is difficult or whether it runs smooth, much is expected of both parties. Chiron\/Mars is where need meets desire. \u00a0Deep transformation via sexual exchange is possible, as well as the healing of any sexual wounding. \u00a0Chiron\/Mars can add desperation to desire. \u00a0Chiron feels its sense of being broken can be ended via the Mars energy. \u00a0It finds that Mars builds its confidence, and as a reward Chiron, at first, encourages Mars. \u00a0If there is anything broken about the Mars (if it is in hard aspect\u00a0in the natal chart with one of the outer planets or Saturn, for example) Chiron will sense that and instinctively try to heal it. \u00a0However, in the passage of time (and Time is the key word here; much depends on the maturity of the participants) Mars may feel that Chiron is drawing it down. \u00a0Sometimes Mars\u00a0feels that Chiron is draining Mars\u00a0when Mars\u00a0wants to move forward and explore. \u00a0Mars’ nature is to move outward, and the Chiron energy is decidedly inward. \u00a0Worse, Mars can feel inferior to Chiron and renege on the initial, implied promise of renewal. \u00a0Chiron can cause Mars to feel as if it must move away from Chiron’s influence. \u00a0If Chiron can take responsibility for its own healing, without depending on Mars, both parties can enjoy the independence and the intimacy as well.<\/p>\n Chiron\/Jupiter: \u00a0When Chiron hits Jupiter in another’s chart, what begins as generosity and a learning experience can turn into dejection. \u00a0Jupiter never likes the balloon to burst, and Chiron runs around with a lot of pins (arrows) in his pocket. \u00a0Chiron often doesn’t mean it. Which is true of all these Chiron positions–we know not what we do where he is concerned. \u00a0In fact, we may feel as if we are the oppressed party. But where Jupiter\/Chiron is concerned, often the balloon is pricked, the bubble bursts, and the flame goes out, often baffling both people involved. \u00a0“But it was so\u00a0good<\/em>,” \u00a0we say. \u00a0“What happened?” \u00a0This is usually quite simple; Jupiter can resent Chiron’s power and wisdom (without realizing what is going on, due to its sunny nature), and Chiron doesn’t understand how the tables have turned. \u00a0Jupiter turns away and Chiron wonders where it has wandered. \u00a0Chiron can be as oppressive as Saturn when it comes down to it, and Jupiter has a hard time being followed by such a downer. \u00a0Chiron demands meaning and intensity in relationship–even the most wise of Jupiters can feel oppressed and boxed in, and may need to let go. \u00a0Then Chiron is left to wonder where all the balloons went.<\/p>\n Chiron\/Saturn: \u00a0This can be one of the more painful, or one of the more rewarding, contacts between charts. \u00a0Although they are at odds, Chiron and Saturn understand one another. \u00a0There is an element of ‘greater good’ in both of them, the need to focus on what’s best for all concerned (People often lose that interpretation of Saturn, which is based on its rulership of Aquarius). \u00a0This works better when a couple is older and more in tune with Saturn’s possibilities. \u00a0Chiron, over time, becomes less about the wound and more about legacy–what wisdom have we learned that we wish to pass on to others? \u00a0Both Chiron and Saturn know that where our greatest pain lies, our greatest wisdom lies. \u00a0Saturn turns our limitations into our successes. \u00a0Chiron knows how to translate achievement into meaning. \u00a0If less mature, Saturn can stop Chiron from discovering the meaning of its wounding, rendering its life purposeless. \u00a0Life loses magic and mystery, which Chiron craves. \u00a0Chiron can make Saturn think that it isn’t as competent as it once thought.<\/p>\n Chiron and the Outer Planets:<\/p>\n Contacts between Chiron and the Outer Planets in synastry are not usually felt in the same way as they are to personal planets. \u00a0When one’s Chiron hits another’s Uranus, Neptune or Pluto, it takes a back seat to the action between Chiron and whatever it hits of the personal planets. \u00a0Higher and lower octaves matter a great deal here. \u00a0If Chiron is hitting Mercury and making an aspect to Uranus at the same time, it may trigger great gifts of telepathy, mind and learning. \u00a0If it hits Venus as well as Neptune, there may be the gift of forgiveness in the relationship, and understanding may be paramount. \u00a0If Mars and Pluto are both contacted, there is a healing, integrative energy awakened in both parties. \u00a0No matter if it is a hard or soft aspect, the power of the outer planet usually adds to the configuration. \u00a0If the personal planet receives a hard aspect from Chiron, the struggles will be there, but also the redemption and ability to connect that comes when the Outer Planets are used wisely. Chiron’s role as the deliverer of the higher knowledge of the Outer Planets is enhanced.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The following is a cookbook description of Chiron contacts with the personal planets in relationship. It is an edited excerpt from my upcoming book on Chiron in synastry, Beyond the Wound: Chiron always weaves a spell in the beginning. Unlike the spell of Neptune, which is the promise of forever love and effortless […]<\/p>\n