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One of the very first big presents I gave my husband was a surfboard. He wanted one really badly. Surfing was a point of contention in his first marriage. I knew this because, more than several times during those first few years, he bristled with defensiveness at the possibility of anyone (me) encroaching on his Saturday morning surf time. I reassured him that I supported his independence, and the hobby that I knew symbolized so much more than a hobby for him, but no matter how many times I said it, that old wound would resurface.<\/p>\n
<\/span>So I bought the surfboard, because surfing is a part of him in the same way solitude is part of me. I bought it\u00a0because I wanted there to be no question that I loved and accepted all of him –not just the parts that I understood, agreed with and didn\u2019t interfere with my weekend plans. I bought that surfboard because I wanted to see him smile, a smile as fantastic as the sunrise, and it just so happened that when I did we also got an added benefit: A\u00a0clean slate. That old haunting apparition he had about not being supported for who he was, those strange ancient arguments that appeared out of nowhere and I never understood went up in smoke.<\/p>\n Luxurious gifts aren\u2019t always necessary, or even practical, for restoring balance to a wobbly relationship dynamic, but I do believe my Libra Rising had honed in on a fundamental disharmony in our relationship and sought to restore it through giving what was lacking. Libra is the archetype of giving and receiving, of equality and balance. When two people (in business, friendship or love), are in sync with the flow of give and take, the relationship thrives, blossoms and blooms. When\u00a0inequalities spring up like weeds, as they will eventually in any long- term relationship,\u00a0one of us must do something about it.<\/p>\n This Libra New Moon initiates a season of harmonizing within, and with each other.<\/strong> Yin and yang, outflow and inflow, giving and receiving, rest and action, mind and heart, healing and being healed, nourishing and being nourished, the fundamental balance we feel, or lack thereof, governs our entire life, magnetizing and attracting experiences and people to us. Balance is the dynamic energy underlying everything.<\/strong>\u00a0And balance is dynamic- never in stasis, always changing. The Scales may swing, sometimes wildly, but they always seek to return to center\u00a0because the\u00a0Libra Universe is just, fair and marvelously corrective.<\/p>\n Who knew a surfboard could\u00a0bring my relationship back into harmony?\u00a0For the\u00a0longest time I thought that in order to\u00a0change a persistent relationship problem\u00a0I had to drag my husband\u00a0into\u00a0therapy and get him\u00a0on the same page.\u00a0It takes two, right? Wrong.<\/strong> More often it only takes one to shift the fulcrum.<\/strong> I was reminded of this when watching the delightful movie Grace of Monaco<\/em> (yes, even princesses have big problems), which drove this point home: When we stop complaining about having our identity\u00a0compromised, blaming,\u00a0feeling misunderstood by our partner and instead take responsibility for our feelings and situation, one can move mountains for both. In the movie, Grace Kelly (who incidentally had Venus in Libra), stepped into the role of a lifetime when she\u00a0let go of her old identity and embraced the roles and obligations every\u00a0partnership entails.\u00a0Likewise,\u00a0every time I take the reins and step into the starring role of my-life-as-partner,\u00a0a solution appears I can run with.<\/p>\n Libra New Moon is a good time to check in on the give and take of your relationships. Would\u00a0giving\u00a0or asking for<\/em>\u00a0something re-balance the Scales? It’s easier to complain about what we lack in a primary partnership than to ask for what we need and desire.\u00a0\u201cI do all the housework, cooking, cleaning, which I enjoy, though he doesn\u2019t pitch in to help even when I ask for it,\u201d said a client recently, \u201cThen a few days ago I realised why I\u2019m unhappy. I\u2019m not receiving at the level I\u2019m giving. I want to receive as much as I give.<\/em>\u201d \u00a0The balance of giving and receiving is as fundamental to relationship as sunshine is to life.<\/strong><\/p>\n Where does this New Moon fall in your chart? Here,\u00a0you are being given an opportunity to restore balance to your life.\u00a0 Is there something you\u00a0could give? Ask\u00a0for? Receive?<\/strong> With spirited\u00a0Uranus in Aries opposing this New Moon, our personal liberty is raised, our hackles up; you might want to take inventory of all that’s right and wonderful, first, to avoid throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Uranus wants us to look from a different angle, to breakthrough old patterns of relating. Meditate on the symbol of the Scales and see what comes up for you. Hold space for less tension, more mutuality, harmony, peace, fairness, appreciation, beauty,\u00a0ease. Discover the magic every Libra knows: When you bring any one part of your life into balance, you gain spiritual congruence in the rest of your life. Then\u00a0do what Libra loves\u00a0most –\u00a0kick back, relax, appreciate the beauty surrounding\u00a0you. Enjoy\u00a0watching your efforts to restore integrity come back to you tenfold.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n