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Ah, the lure of the karmic relationship. It’s not just the magnetic connection that pulls you in, it’s the knowledge that the two of you were involved in a previous life. You are fated lovers.<\/em> You’ve reconnected in this life because (as all the karma-savvy folks know) you have unfinished business to complete. It’s more than a mutual attraction; it’s your karmic duty. But what if it’s not? What if every past-life relationship you encounter is not meant to be explored?<\/p>\n

The Karma Trap<\/h2>\n

Almost every significant relationship in your life is based on a past-life connection. The reason you’re reconnecting is because something happened in that past life, and it was most likely unpleasant. Hence, the unfinished business. Past life partners with whom you’ve had an idyllic, tension-free connection will have no reason to cross your path again. What might have happened between the two of you covers a very broad spectrum: One of you died, one of you was abandoned by the other, you were both killed by disease\/war, you weren’t allowed to marry. And so on. Sometimes, that unfinished business is particularly painful for one of you. You might have been a victim (of your partner). You did something to make your partner very, very angry.<\/p>\n

Fast forward to this life. You meet your partner, the attraction is overwhelming, but the relationship is non-stop pain, drama and heartbreak. But that’s OK, because you’re ready to push through in order to tie up those loose ends from the previous life. This is what I call the “karma trap” –\u00a0being devoted to a current life relationship that causes you pain, because you believe it’s fated. You wouldn’t have met each other if it wasn’t meant to be. Right?<\/p>\n

Wrong. Just because you cross paths with a past-life partner does not mean you must pursue that relationship.<\/strong>\u00a0 With some people, you feel a gut level sense of distaste within minutes of meeting them; you don’t even need to look at the charts to know that (in a previous life) things went very poorly. You’re more than happy to steer clear of each other now. But with others, it’s not so black-and-white. There may have been a romantic connection in a past life, but that wasn’t the whole story. Maybe your past life partner (who you were desperately in love with) was simply not a nice person, and continues to be … not nice. \u00a0Since you do not have total past-life recall, you can’t know exactly what happened. You still feel the connection<\/em>, and that’s what powers you forward. But that connection does not always mean it’s in your best interests to pursue the relationship.<\/p>\n

The Same Story<\/h2>\n

So the big question is, how do you know if a karmic relationship is worth your time and energy? First of all, know that past life dynamics will be repeated in this life. The same story will be told, although some of the words will be different. Synastry can give you some clues as to what those dynamics were, and will be. Conjunctions or squares between Mars, Saturn, Uranus and Pluto to the natal or Composite South Node suggest past life dynamics that were especially harsh.<\/strong> These examples are not absolutes. They are more likely<\/em> to indicate unpleasant past-life connections (that you might want to avoid) but how those connections play out depend on the people involved.<\/p>\n

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One partner’s natal Mars conjunct the other’s South Node (or one partner’s personal planet conjunct the other’s Mars\/South Node conjunction) can suggest that violence was part of the past-life relationship. The scenarios are endless, but here’s an example, based on some charts I’ve worked with: Your partner was injured, and you made a promise to save their life. But you failed. In this life, you are drawn to them because of the promise you made. They feel the draw as well, but it’s mixed with anger and betrayal (you let them die). In this life, you may keep trying to get close to them, only to have them manipulate and push you away. They are punishing you.<\/p>\n

Not fair! It wasn’t your fault they died, and you did your best to save them. But past-life connections are not about fairness or logic.<\/strong> The echo of the feelings are acted on. All your partner will know is that they feel a mix of anger and fear whenever you’re around; you bring up the past life memories of their death. If they’ve done the work required to evolve, they might be able to push past this. Or not.<\/p>\n

A Saturn\/South Node connection between partners\u00a0indicates past-life responsibility and restriction. Let’s say your partner was forced to marry you in a previous life (an arranged marriage). They had money and power, and this marriage was your ticket to a better life. Your financial security, your status and your survival was their responsibility. In this life, they’ll still feel that obligation. But if the rest of their chart is set up so that obligations feel suffocating, you’ll also feel like a lead weight around their neck. They are not prepared to shoulder that responsibility again, which is why they go AWOL when you broach the subject of commitment.<\/p>\n

The next step is to look at what actually happens between the two of you in this life.<\/strong>\u00a0This is obvious, but people overlook it when they get caught up in the idea of karma. If the current life relationship drags you down, or spins its wheels without progressing, it’s not meant to be explored. If the object of your desire tells you they just want to be friends, or they don’t want to commit to you, this is a clear indication of how they’re handling the past life dynamics. None of these South Node contacts are deal breakers. But, it doesn’t matter how evolved you are, or how much love you’re pouring into the relationship. The other person must be ready and willing to work through the karma with you.<\/strong> If they’re not, that’s the biggest sign of all that you should give this relationship a pass.<\/p>\n

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